Everytime a topic or idea pops in my head I picture it a lot shorter. 

I'm still unemployed with no lisence, go figure, and I only have about two or three weeks of summer school left. Nothing new there.  As far as rapping goes we started to get a renewed sense of enthusiasm when I took this old beat we had (has like this army drum pattern incoporated into it) and threw a couple pieces  from a few of Malcolm X's speeches on the beginning and end.  After that everybody started to get focused and now the songs are going like clockwork.    

Deep Thought: Non-verbal Love

What is the highest symbol of public affection? Is it a kiss? It could be. What about a hug? We know that’s not right. Maybe and arm around the shoulder, a tap on the butt… How about holding hands?

What’s going through your mind right now? First thing is you're going to try to rationalize and think of all the reasons I could be making this claim, second you’re going to think about all of the possibilities and make your case for one of those and finally you’re going to read the rest to figure out why I said what I said.  Or maybe you’ll just read it without anything going through your mind.

Let me state my claim.  First off, everybody is entitled to their own opinion so everybody may not feel the way I do about the issue but for the sake of being open minded listen (read on). Holding hands to me is a bigger form of commitment than any other form of public affection that I listed above because it means more. 

So no one gets confused I’ll let you know I am typing about public affection between two people who are together in a relationship or two people who are trying to get together in a relationship, the courting process, you know before any type of commitment.

The Hug

People hug people so much that it’s a greeting now. For the sake of argument I can elaborate.  Hugging someone doesn’t necessarily mean you have feelings for that person.  That could actually show your lack of feelings for them or your insecurity. If you are going to hug someone why not kiss them? I’m not saying be all up in there mouth but why not give them a little peck on the cheek or lips? It’s not because you don’t want other people to see you hugging them is it? No that’s absurd.  Is it because you don’t yet feel comfortable enough with that person to show everybody else that you are together? Of course not, that’s ridiculous.  If that’s what you believe, the disagreements, then you won’t agree with my next statement either.  A hug is the easy way out if you don’t want to display your feeling for your partner.  You would know this if you were on the receiving side of the hug.  A hug leaves you feeling incomplete.  That could be why when you see people hug they hold on for so long or they try to get more than one hug.

The Kiss

What’s the first thing that goes through your mind when you see two people kissing when you’re walking through the mall, or down the street or the hallway of your school for that matter? Maybe you’re thinking that they are happy, maybe you are thinking they must be comfortable with each other, maybe you are thinking get a room.  But only 32% if not less do you think that maybe they are in love. This PDA is probably the highest on most peoples list of ways to publicly show they care.  You could say that and make a case for it.  Before a passionate kiss meant I Love You.  Don’t get me wrong it could mean the same thing but kissing more this in age than before could be a way of covering up betrayal.  Don’t believe me read the Easter story lol.  A kiss (on the cheek) in public and Jesus was crucified.  I know it’s not that extreme but nowadays people do have their own agendas.  How do you know that the person initiating the kiss isn’t just doing it to show everyone else that this is my property and not because they care about you?  Kissing has been so abused that someone can give you the most sensual kiss and lie to your face.  I admit I have far beyond abused the kiss just not in that way.  It’s not uncommon for me to kiss females on the first date just to see if they can kiss.

Etc.

The arm around the shoulder looks more like you are trying to game the person than it looks like you are romantically involved with them.  A pat on the butt is, in my mind, more degrading, in public (because in private it’s all good lol), than affectionate. 

Holding Hands

One thing you notice about all of the PDA’s I listed above is that they are a very common sight to see when you are in public.  Holding hands isn’t.  I mean how many people do you see walking through the mall holding hands.  Out of all of the people you see hugging and kissing in the mall, how many of them do you see holding hands.  When you see people holding hand you think either they are whipped or they are trying to hold onto something but is there ever a doubt in your mind that they have feelings for one another? In most peoples eyes holding hands is soft and if you have an image or rep for being the man’s man (no homosexual pun intended) then the last thing you are going to want to be seen doing is holding hands.  In my mind holding hands is a symbol of two people becoming one.  It’s like saying (excerpt from Jerry Maguire), “You complete me.”  You might see me kissing a girl early on but later do you see me holding her hand? Odds are you don’t.  Some of you may be like that’s a little extreme or it’s not that serious.  If you are saying that and you are a female try to hold your man’s hand in public and see how uncomfortable he gets. If he doesn’t than you might have something. If you are a guy, try to hold your lady’s hand in public see if she lets you first of all then see how excited she is to hold it. 

I repeat, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and this is mine.  NOTHING IS 100% in this situation because everyone is different but next time you’re out with your significant other or your significant other to be think about it.  Next time you see two people holding hands in public see how much they respond and react to each other and you draw your own conclusion.