Re-Cap

I’m going to try to make this recap as short as possible since the deep thought is pretty long. 

I’m sure most of you reading this are from around my area so you know what happened up here in Edinboro.  If you don’t know watch the news or something.  I really don’t have much to say about it except don’t approach me about it if we don’t normally talk (I’ve been getting phone calls and texts about it from people I haven’t talked to since August), don’t ask or hint toward the fact that I’m going to do something like that because I'm way too intelligent to do something that stupid and finally I told you so.  When we all first got here I told everyone even though all of us were up here I was going to be the only one to finish the first year and guess what…

I think I will complain about modern technology another time (I couldn’t access the internet on my computer and the buttons on my phone do not work unless I press a series of them i.e. select, down arrow, menu, you get the picture. The only button that works is the hang up button.  I didn’t want to do it but since I’ve been having so many problems with my phone I have to say the company the manufactured it and the service… model LG1300, service Cingular.

Deep Thought: Why we cheat. Part 1: Lack of maturity

There are so many ways I can go with this journal entry it’s ridiculous.  There are also a lot of things I can say about this topic but by the time you finished reading it my next entry would be posted. It is already so long that I have to break it into two journal entries (maybe more if I feel the need to elaborate, or by request).  Out of all of the reasons, there are two issues that lead to cheating that I will be addressing for sure:  Lack of maturity (part 1) and boredom (part 2). Holla!!!

The lack of maturity comes into play when you are talking about “husband or wifey material.”  Some people are cursed with the label of being marriage material.  In my mind I am a king so if I am going to be with a female she is going to be my queen and deserves to be treated like one.  I’m not the only person who thinks like that and there are other males and females who think the same way.  People who have been labeled “marriage material” need to be smart about what they do because they will get taken advantage of if they are with someone who is not mature enough to handle the relationship.  I’m more of a long term relationship guy or no relationship at all because you really don’t know the person that well until a few months in even if you knew the person all your life.  I believe dating just for the title is grade school thinking.  In middle school before you really knew what being boyfriend and girlfriend really was happens to be what a lot of people think being boyfriend and girlfriend is today.  To some people it’s just a title.  It’s kind of like having an umbrella on a sunny day with 35% chance of rain, you don’t really need it but it’s nice to say you have one just incase something happens. 

I guess I got a little off topic but I’ll get back to the point I was trying to make.  A lot of people want grown up relationships but they are not grown enough to handle it.  They can talk all that commitment bull but when it comes down to it when they see a better body you become expendable.  Lust is a mutha lol. That is where the psychological problems begin for the “marriage material.”  If this constantly happens, getting dumped for someone else who is willing to do things that the other person wouldn’t do, then a mindset starts to get created in the person that tells them the only way that they are going to keep their man or woman is to go against what they believe and act out of character.  That’s how marriage material gets turned into statistics.  To me a statistic is someone who gets cheated on, knows they are getting cheated on then accepts they are being cheated on because they have a false image of a love that isn’t there or because they think their boyfriend or girlfriend will eventually change.  Call it what you want infatuation or stupidity. Whatever you want to call it I believe the best way to avoid this is to be yourself and be smart enough to realize that what you are doing isn’t wrong and you need to have patience so when the right person comes along you can still be that person you set yourself out to be.   

I guess most of that has to do with loving yourself.  I don’t mean in a conceited way.  I mean loving yourself on the outside as well as the inside.  I guess that’s part of the problem with a lot of people in bad relationships, they don’t love themselves so they don’t know how to be loved or treated.  If you can honestly say you love yourself than you wouldn’t be in a bad relationship because you wouldn’t allow yourself to continually be mistreated and cheated on.

Final Thought:

If you know you are not mature enough to be in a real, adult, mature relationship then don’t front like you are because you might be messing up someone’s whole livelihood.  If you are in it for one thing if your game is tight enough you can probably get it without either one of you having to commit.  And if you are trying to change yourself to keep somebody, stop playing yourself and do you.  You have to find love for yourself before you can find love for somebody else.

To be continued…