What’s good? As I said…I have a couple entries prewritten so for the next few weeks they will be posted on time (Sunday nights)

Re-Cap

Outside of school not a lot has really happened.  I did get my project back in my Intro to Mass Media class though. I wasn’t really that surprised at my grade because I worked hard on it.  I ended up getting an A(91) on my paper because I did endnotes instead of footnotes so he took 9 points off.  Then I got an A (100) on my presentation, basically because it was fly and I did everything I set out to do.  For my presentation I basically explained how hip hop music was made then I played an a cappella sample from a song I made, then I just played the instrumental then I played them together and explained everything that took place in the studio while I was recording.

I went home for Easter weekend.  I didn’t know I was going home until about 9pm Thursday and I left 8am Friday.  Not a whole lot went on while I was home except I hooked up with a friend, got lost and slept. As you can see my weekend wasn’t very eventful.  

Deep Thought: Trust

I have found that one of the hardest things to do is trust someone.  Maybe it is because of past experiences maybe it is because of paranoia who knows but being able to trust somebody makes a relationship (friendship or relationship) stronger. 

Personally I don’t trust most people with my garbage if you know what I mean.  When you start to put your trust in someone and they betray it that is a difficult thing to regain.  In my case, my trust is limited to certain things.  I don’t fully trust anybody but I do trust people to do certain things and act a certain way.  There are people I can trust with my life but not with my girl.  There are people I can trust with my money but not with my DVDs.  It is kind of like the scene from “A Thin Line between Love and Hate” when Martin Lawrence asked Regina King if she trusted him and she said she trusts him to do exactly what he is going to do and she doesn’t expect him to be anything other than himself.  It’s sad that we think that way but there is a reason for that.

As we get older it is almost like we are conditioned not to trust people.  After being constantly let down by people who are close to you, you don’t expect anything different.  Let me school you real quick.  It’s like Pavlov’s dogs if you want to look at it from a psychological standpoint.  If you are not familiar with the dogs this is basically what happened:

-- Pavlov was a scientist who changed a neutral stimulus into a controlled one basically by association.  He had his assistant feed the dogs he had in his lab and after a while of this when the assistant came into the lab the dogs associated him with being fed and started to salivate before the food was even put in front of them.—

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So in a sense we are like Pavlov’s dogs because we have been lied to so much by other people that our response to the new people we meet is distrust. 

I said before that trust is the strongest bond in a relationship.  I mean, there is love, but if you truly love someone you have to trust them, right?  The problem that is present in most relationships is that we do not trust each other and that strong bond is not evident. You could blame it on the mass media and make a strong case about how it always shows men cheating on there women and having commitment issues and women cheating on there men for similar reasons but if you are not a strong enough person to break away from the fictional episodes that are placed in front of you for entertainment purposes you can’t truly have a successful relationship.  There are people who stay together even though they don’t completely trust each other but if you always have to wonder what the other person is doing when you’re not around that isn’t very successful, is it?

Final Words:

I understand that it is difficult to trust people especially after being lied to by someone who “loved” you.  My response for that is like K-Ci and Jo Jo said “Don’t Rush.”  In this case we are talking about two different subjects but the underlying message is still there, don’t rush into big decisions.  Get to know the person and if you feel you can trust that person you better be right. If you really want it to work make sure they want it to work too.